🌱 Results:
It is normal when you are at a crossroads, and not to understand your feelings. You need to feel safe before you can make a decision. More importantly, you need clarity on what you need so can make the best decision for yourself.
Sometimes, we hold tightly to something familiar: an identity, a relationship, belief, or routine, even if it no longer aligns.
This is not about weakness. It’s about safety. Not knowing what’s next makes it hard to commit, even if you’re uncomfortable now. Your nervous system may be stuck in freeze, waiting for a sense of direction or reassurance that never fully comes.
Oftentimes, indecision is rooted in self-doubt. You may not trust your inner resources, fear being wrong, or worry what others will think. Your inner critic is louder than your inner guide right now, but that can shift.
You need support to gently release attachment, grieve the old, and to remember what you’re capable of. Interventions such as Polyvagal and Eco-therapy techniques are helpful for this.
Scoring:
Each answer corresponds to a style:
Mostly A’s = Suppression (holding in, avoidance)
Mostly B’s = Expression (letting out, venting, overwhelm)
Mostly C’s = Balanced/Processing (self-aware, reflective, seeking growth)
👉 Give 1 point each time someone selects an answer that matches a style.
👉 At the end, tally which style has the highest total points, that’s your result.
1. The Suppressor
You’re strong and self-contained — but you may carry pain like a hidden weight. Healing means learning safe ways to express so you don’t burn out.
👉 Coaching can help you release without losing control.
2. The Expressor
You process by sharing, crying, or reacting — which is healthy, but can feel overwhelming without direction. Healing means learning to channel emotions into clarity and confidence.
👉 With support, you can move from raw expression to empowered action.
3. The Balanced Processor
You’re already aware of your feelings, but may not know how to move forward. Healing means going deeper, integrating lessons, and designing your next chapter.
👉 This is where coaching can help you transform insight into growth.
In the meantime, here are some 3 tangible actions you can take to start going in the direction you want and need:
Identify 3 values that are important to you.
Use social media to your advantage: follow 5 accounts that support your values, and unfollow 5 that don’t.
Imagine an average day, where you follow your values and you are surrounded by those that agree with those values. Just take in how that feels in your body to experience it, and savor.
Need more? Get the Sacred Pause:
✅restore clarity
✅calm your nervous system
✅reconnect with your inner compass