After reading the title, what did you think?
I hear this a lot from clients: “how do I get over the past?” There are many different meanings to this, and what is healing and how do we know if we are “over it”?
I would like to venture out holistically. I believe when people say “get over it”, what I think they mean is “healing from the past”, where it no longer bothers you. Where you can think back on it briefly, not cringe and just let yourself be who you are despite what happened.
If you are willing to experiment with what I am going to offer, then you are on well on your way towards healing. I know this because I have tried it.
The first step is to notice what it is about your past that you need to “get over”, and how would that help you in the long run? For example, are you are feeling ashamed of an alcoholic past? Would it help you focus on your work or your children? Would it make you a better person?
Once you have defined that, then think about the question: what can I learn from this? Life has a lot of lessons to learn and there are planets that help us focus on these themes as they are activated in our charts. it is not anything to be ashamed about it. It is the universe’s way of shaping our souls to be the best person we can be.
What do some of the planets teach us? The Moon gives us insight into what makes us comfortable or safe. A person with a Leo Moon will feel great shining and performing in front of a group, while a Capricorn Moon will want to choose specific relationships with whom to become intimate.
Mars teaches us how to fight for the underdog. but not to cut everyone out of our lives at once, while Venus learns healthy boundaries in love. Depending on where these planets are placed in your chart natally, and where they are moving in the sky at the moment, affecting your natal placements, can bring light into what you may be learning.
When we learn from the past, we can move on from it. It can no longer hold us back. That is why taking a look at your natal chart can bring concrete events you have experienced into paths of healing. Astrology offers an opportunity to make sense of what has happened, based on our tendencies, what we hope for our futures, and how to bring that about based on our personalities. It is a beautiful journey, and I hope you take it, no matter where it takes you.